Understanding your psychology

A balanced life

Do you ever get a sense of ‘disconnect’ with your life? By this I mean feeling like things don’t feel right, perhaps you feel disconnected from enjoyment or your job or people in your life. It can be a fleeting feeling or something that might last a few days or more.

One of the tools that’s useful to help you pin point which areas in your life are not particularly satisfactory is the ‘Pillars of a Balanced Life’ chart. Some people use the ‘Wheel of Life’. Either will do. It breaks down your life into certain categories that you then score, say, out of 10 (10 is maximum satisfaction). It’s a graphic tool, see below, so becomes obvious which areas could use some work.

The exercise is not about how things have been in the past or what you would like your life to be in the future. It is a snapshot of the here and now. It’s also not a school report! It’s not about how well or poorly you have been or are performing (could try harder, do again in own time… no!). It’s just about how satisfied you are with these elements in your life right now. I sometimes use it in coaching at the beginning of a relationship to see how satisfied my clients are with their lives; it quickly pinpoints those areas that could use coaching.

Can you imagine that this is a proper chart with a big gap between 0 and 10? I am struggling to make this table appear correctly!

Professional Financial Physical Spiritual Intimacy Social Family Learning Home Fun
10 10 10 10 10 10 10 10 10 10
0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0

You could add a final column of ‘Overall Life Satisfaction’.

Remember our work on values? If you can pinpoint the areas in your life that are not reaching more than a 7 on this chart, then take another look at your top values and ask yourself whether you can see a path towards change by paying attention to your values. It’s about trying to achieve ‘balance’. It’s no good scoring a 10 in the professional column if you score a 1 in the family column, you are unlikely to feel contented with that.

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